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|Tue, 04-20-2010 - 7:39am|
I met my DB last year we had known each other since school and had a fling when we were teens, he went of and had kids and got married and so did i. When we met up again i had just ended my marriage with my dh and he was single with a string of failed relationships behind him, not finding the right woman. I was living 200 miles away so for months we were travelling to see each other at weekends.
I fell for him very fast and he showed he cared and wanted me to move back home to the town he was still living in, this was easy for me because my family lived there too. i tried my hardest and eventually moved back with my kids at the end of the summer last year. Before i moved back we always talked about living together and making a real go of our relationship and it was what we both wanted.
Shortly after moving back and things were very stressful for me, with settling in and finding work etc he started to back of and stopped coming to my house, he would make excuses that he was tired or doing something, if we saw each other it was for an hour or two and then he would leave and go home. The arguments were mostly every day, i wanted to be with him and he made out i was coming on to strong. Newyears eve he called me a lapdog and said he wanted this year to be different. We joined a gym, , his idea for us to do something together, few days later the excuses started again and he was spending more time with his teenage daughter than he was me, i would text and ask if he was going to the gym, he would tell me he was already there with his DD, this caused more argument and then he would ignore me. At the end of January he text me and said neither of us were happy and he wanted space, i was devestated and he couldnt of cared less. He carried on texting me and then told me all my faults were i didnt make him happy and didnt try with his kids.
After that chat we had we stayed together and sorted things out. weeks later he went and had a serious operatiion and i was there for him and supported him. Hes moved in with me and my kids and we are alot better now. But a few months ago i found out he had been texting his ex GF when he was at work, he told me he text her to wish her happy birthday, but i later found out her BD wasnt for another week, he lied for 4 days to who the woman he had text was, he made out it was someone different, when i found out it was his ex he brushed it away and made out i was over reacting.
He is very distant and doesnt show his feelings to me very often but the thing that niggles me is his kmoblile phone, he never leaves it anywhere its with him 24/7 in his pocket, he has had late night texts and then leaves it on silent, if i question him he says the texts are from his teenage dd or work mates, i caught him checking his phone and texting someone early hours of the morning last week, he said it was someone from work, it happened again last night. If his phone needs charging he wont leave it on the side to charge, he waits to we go to bed and then charges it.
im very paranoid