REVENGE AND ANGER

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Registered: 11-24-2008
REVENGE AND ANGER
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Wed, 01-14-2009 - 4:57pm

Wow, there's been a lot of anger and talk of revenge on this board recently.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:13pm

I was on the phone with my oldest daughter today and between the tears and sob's she made me promise not to do anything "stupid". She told me she "only has one parent that she can count on..." This from a

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Registered: 10-31-2003
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:14pm
I agree with your parents, taking a few breaths would probably be a good idea.

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Registered: 11-24-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:18pm

You posted that you had a hangover yesterday or today.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:27pm

I had a very long conversation last night with Jack Daniels. I got up this am and I felt like crap. I was so bad that my beard hurt....


I can't do that again...I am not 21 any more and I need to be there for my kids....


raging...

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 11:21pm

well california, there are 'some' good points in your post BUT, AND YES THIS IS A BIG BUT,

THERE IS NO REASON ON GODS GREEN EARTH FOR CHEATING ON A SPOUSE. IF IT IS THAT BAD THEN GET THE HEL* OUT!!!!!!!!!! LEAVE WITH YOUR DIGNITY IN PLACE, IF YOU HAVE INTEGRITY YOU DO NOT SABOTAGE YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY FOR THE THRILL OF SOME SEX. if along the way you fall out of love for your spouse either work on it or leave as a man.

WHY EXPECT TO HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. WHY NOT COMMUNICATE THIS IS NOT WORKING AND I NEED TO LEAVE.

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 11:22pm
AMEN, SISTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 11:44pm

raging bull:

something tells me you are a teddy bear to your children. i bet they love you to death. while i know that this is hard i woud like for you to consider something from someone who went thru the same thing after 27 years of marriage. IT IS IMPERATIVE THAT YOU DO NOT 'KNOCK' YOUR WIFE TO YOUR CHILDREN. believe me in the end, down the road they will appreciate you for it. the love they have for her as their mother is special. they will form their own opinions about what she had done. i am sure they are hurting and full of much anger right now towards her. yet, i can assure you it will change who they are; how any woman does not know that is beyond me. i know that my childrens opinion of me as a mom and as a mentor is exceedingly important to me.

the rage you are feeing, you have got to let it out. how about going to a boxing gym and working on the bags. believe me no amount of hurt and pain is worth landing in jail for. it will cost you money and in the end what good will it do? i would also like to offer up another thought...................... the part about contacting his employer and him loosing his job - have you considered that HIS WIFE and HIS CHILDREN will also suffer if he looses his job. they, like you and your children are innocent in all of this. KARMA, do not bring bad KARMA on yourself.

this is going to take time, alot of time. you need to understand that your are grieving, you are grieving the loss of the marriage you thought you had, the loss of the woman you thought she was.

this board helps, wow does it help. the majority of the people on this board are very supportive i would say 99.9999%. occasionally a naysayer will venture on.

jack daniels is not your friend. no, its influence is bad and will alter your decision making. many is the man who under the influence did something he wised he never would have.

YOUR WIFE WILL COME TO REALIZE THE MISTAKE SHE HAS MADE. probably as soon as HIS wife hits him up along side of head with a baseball bat. ha ha just a joke.

we all have been where you are, some are where you are right now. we are here for you and we care truly we do.

take care of yourself,

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Registered: 11-24-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 7:33am

There was no need for that.

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Registered: 10-31-2003
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 9:36am

Hi everyone,


Once again I remind you that if you don't enjoy a particular topic of discussion then you should simply ignore that discussion and participate in one of the hundreds of other discussions here on the board, or start a new discussion.

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Registered: 11-24-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 10:20am

My apologies.