Sex after betrayal

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Sex after betrayal
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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 5:36pm

I know its normal to be on an emotional rollercoaster after an A but Im 2 years after A and still feeling quite a bit of animosity towards H.

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Registered: 02-16-2010
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 7:39pm

Love,


When I first let my husband come home, I couldn't get close enough to him or get enough of him.

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:19pm

your thinking is not wrong.. and he knows it.. men always know but ask anyway.. sex when you desire him for real will keep him at home.. sex for just wanting to keep him home won't.. it all takes time.. and he should give you the space you need.. no questions asked.. when you are ready, then you can have sex with him.. before that, don't even bother.. and let him know that this is how you feel.. and unless he wanted to use your body for his pleasures instead of making love to you, he should keep away from you until YOU tell him you are ready for him..


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Registered: 10-03-2009
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:26pm

you seem to be in so much pain.. it is not fair to you.. have you thought about counseling?..


you have every right to ask any question you want, as much as you want, as many times as you want, and he HAS to answer all of them, all the time.

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 9:07pm
I'm the opposite, I always did and still do want more sex than he does. So it was NEVER about sex.
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Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 6:41pm

Long story...

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 7:33pm

I think, in running on, I tend to dilute my point... oops!

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Registered: 10-27-2009
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 11:18pm

love2hard,


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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:24am
I won't read the other replies because I have a firm opinion on this one.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:27am
Great post.

 

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 5:51pm

Oh myradorn, I want to hug you!


Thanks so much for making me smile for a second.