sex after infidelity

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Registered: 12-31-1969
sex after infidelity
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 1:12pm

I just found out my husband had an affair. She contacted ME and told all including how great the sex was. How do I get back my confidence for sex after something like this? how do I know I'm enough? 

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 11:28pm

She gave you all the advantage!  methinks she is losing him.  This is the time for cunning.  Your calm will bother her more.  It is not about sex. 

   I wish I had seen you post earlier.  Anyone who would do what she did is desperate or an idiot.


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Registered: 09-12-2008
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 1:51pm

You are very fresh to this subject and it is going to take some time to wrap your mind around issues of intimacy.

May I recommend a book? "Getting Past the Affair." :

It has a very good section on sex questions.

I'm sorry you are going through this. People can be very vicious. You don't deserve to have someone treat you this way.


We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.