The Shark is a Minnow

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The Shark is a Minnow
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Wed, 02-04-2009 - 1:26pm

My apologies to all for not posting for a few days but my girls have been having some issues. Being a dad with 4 girls can be a bit hair rasing.


My FIL came over this past Sunday to see the kids and to talk to me. He wanted me to meet with my W's attorney as he had some questions. I told him I would call his office on Monday see what time I could meet him. I met him Monday evening at 5:30pm and I had my attorney with me. My W's attorney was surprised that I would bring him to our meeting, which was just a "friendly chat", according to him. The shark wanted to know how I was "feeling" and I have seen a doctor. My attorney cut him off pretty quick. We told him to cut to the chase. My W is already trying to plan what will happen in 45 days when she is out of detox. I instructed "the shark" that my W could see MY girls only in a supervised setting, that she would not be returning home and that there was a lot of unfinished business that SHE needed to address.


I told her attorney the following:


That she needs to let someone know where the BMW is? I am tired of getting calls about the car. I cannot report it stolen as It is not mine. How is that for chuckles.


I also told him that my W's bank accounts were all frozen. The DA is hunting for answers to his questions.


Her company is anxious to settle this matter without it landing in court. He smiled at that one. I could hear the cash register in his head.


She should also know that I have been questioned about her BF and that I don't appreciate the cops asking my girls questions.


She should also know that OM's W has filed for D and he is jail still. She did not post bond for him.


I am having all of her mail forwarded to her parents home as I do not to see if she a frequent stayer at any more hotels. The Marriott was enough.


Our Bedroom (what a joke) has been turned into a home office.


That our girls are doing ok and that Julie and Sara miss her. Katie and Megan, not so much.


The last thing I told both FIL and The Shark was that I will not allow her to hurt my family anymore than she already has. If she tries any stuff I will file for D immediately. I would then be compelled to testify against her.


So I have stage duty tonight. My littilest is in the school chorus. We are all going and I help with managing the stage.


I hope everyoen is doing ok...


Has anyoen heard from SoCal girl???


Jack

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:00pm

Congratulations!!


You've written the primer on what many of us should have done and what the present fence-sitters most likely need to do. Being proactive is the way to go. Making no decision(s) is to make a decision. Glad to see that you haven't fallen into that trap.

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:15pm
I'm sorry and I feel so much for you and this difficult situation.
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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:22pm

Nope, I can't. I have 4 amazing daughters that keep me on my toes. My W is where she is by her own decisions.


Life goes on. I am trying to get everyone into a rhythm of daily life.


Jack

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:25pm

Thanks..One day at a time is exactly how I am living. For all the stuff that has been thrown at me I think I am doing OK.


My girls keep me sane (if you can call it that)..My oldest one, Katie, really like to keep me on my toes. This weekend she wanted to know if she could get a tattoo. She wanted to test the "old man".


Jack

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 5:06pm

You are a man after my own heart.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 10:11am

My girls like to tease me alot now. My two oldest are going to give me a heart attack.


I went shopping with them this weekend. They each needed a dress for a dance. When is the Britney Spears (I wanna look like a hooker) look going to go out of style?


I am really starting to like the Little House on the Prarie look....


Jack...

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 12:59pm

Ahhh,

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Registered: 02-16-2007
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 2:00pm

Glad to hear you are doing better. And it sounds like you are handling your girls very well. Does your wifes family ever help out with watching the kids for you- do you have family close by to help you?


have you seen your wife at all since she has been in detox?

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 2:29pm

"Glad to hear you are doing better. And it sounds like you are handling your girls very well. Does your wifes family ever help out with watching the kids for you- do you have family close by to help you?"


I am lucky in that parents help alot and my sisters are over all of the time. My mom likes to spoil my kids but has helped me with the clothes issues. My sisters have spoken up too. "What do I know..I am an OLD man". That from my 13 year old Megan. My sister Robin has helped with colling Meagn off.


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Registered: 05-24-2004
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 11:43am

>>About a week ago she called me and was in the area. She

Solazzo

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