Should she know?

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Registered: 02-26-2012
Should she know?
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Sat, 04-14-2012 - 8:01am
So my ex and I broke up over a year ago after a four year relationship and engagement. We had bought a house a year and a half before that so due to tax reasons I've had to stay in the house and live with him. (Sucky) The reason we broke up, he says he was happy but I knew it was for a friend of his. Well he says they aren't officially dating, she is out of state at school for the next two years, however they skype and tell each other 'I Love You' and exchange naked pictures and videos. Anyway, so here he and I are still sleeping together and hanging out and basically dating just no official title but obviously I know about her and yet she has no clue that we still live together much less hang out and have sex. I want to tell her. I believe she should know. Not only so she will realize what type of guy he is but also she deserves to be heartbroken because they fooled around for months before he actually got the balls to break up with me. I know this seems childish but I think about telling her all the time. If I would tell her it would have to be some sort of anonymous email cause otherwise it would cause hostility in the household. I'm just not sure what to do. Help!
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Registered: 02-26-2012
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 8:43am

When October comes I am getting my name off the mortgage and letting him do what he wants with the house. I'm an idiot and I know it for keeping up with this charade but it just seems easier than having tension in the house. I'm just in a crappy position and have a heart that's too big and he's taking advantage of it.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 8:22am

What steps are you taking to sell the house or have him buy you out?

Why are you letting him use you?

Where is your self-respect?

Stop focusing on her and focus on yourself--you are worth more than this creep, even if he IS your first love.

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Registered: 02-26-2012
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 8:17am

When I say sleeping with him I mean having sex. I am already in a seperate bedroom and bed and trying to move on but its kinda hard when you live with your first love.

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Registered: 02-22-1999
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 8:15am
Why are you still sleeping with him? I would move into the other bedroom and move on. Because he clearly has no respect for either one of you.