So Confused and don't know what to do
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|Mon, 04-15-2013 - 1:07pm|
Will try to make a very long story short. . . Married 18 years, found out husband was having affair that lasted 3 years, forgave him, went to counseling, moved on to what I thought was a better relationship. After 2 years of "the moving on" sketchy things started happening that made me start second guessing his faithfullness again. He started a new job and worked with basically all younger women and started hanging out with them. There were deleted text messages, long phone conversations (per cell phone bill), just things that in the pit of my stomach that were not right. When I would ask him about these things, he could never give me a rationale explanation. I expained to him that because of the "past affair", I needed reassurance. He would get upset and tell me that he has done nothing wrong and it was not fair that I will never let that affair go. We started arguing more and more over stupid things and I swear, I do not know where some of these arguments came from. I would ask him why is he spending so much time with these women at work and he would tell me that they are his friends and he enjoys spending time with them. I would ask him why does he not want to spend time with me and treat me like he treats them and he said because I am a bitch. This went on for a year. He now has gotten a new job in another state and has moved. I have told him that it is over, that I deserve to be with someone that I can trust and that wants to be with me. He keeps calling, texting, emailing me wanting to work things out. I love him so very much and am really hurting and confused. We have 3 children (2 that are older), one still at home with me. I guess I have held on so long because of my children, I know our younger child is hurting because of the absence of his father.
I cant prove that he did anything wrong after the 3 year affair but there are things that just don't add up and he cannot give me a rationale explanation. What do I do? Move on or give him yet another chance?