Some Thoughts

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Registered: 08-11-2007
Some Thoughts
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 6:07am

A lot of times when a newly betrayed spouse posts many others rally to the cause and assure her that her husband's infidelity was not her fault.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
In reply to: morgaine_v
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 10:51am
I'll agree that most if not all marriages affected by betrayal have issues...mine included...even if we don't realize.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: morgaine_v
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 2:13pm
So he knew you were an alcoholic/addict when he married you right? If so then he knew what he was getting into all along and still chose to marry you. Still the vows said are "for better or worse" If someone decides they can't handle the worse then they should be honest and ask for a divorce or go to marriage counseling to see if the issues can be resolved. NOT go out and cheat. In my opinion there is never ANY legitimate excuse to cheat period. Anyone with half a brain should know that this is not going to solve any problems WITHIN the marriage and make the issues so much worse in the long run. Problem is people DON'T THINK before they do something so stupid that will affect their marriage and their children for years to come. Nor do they stop to think how THEY would feel if the shoe were on the other foot. A lot of it has to do with emotional intelligence which has nothing to do with your IQ.
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In reply to: morgaine_v
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 7:36pm
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In reply to: morgaine_v
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:34pm

I get your point, but I still believe with my whole heart there is NO good reason for anyone to cheat.

 

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Registered: 08-11-2007
In reply to: morgaine_v
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:25am

Thanks.