Still trying to cope with husbands past affairs.
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|Tue, 01-18-2011 - 2:12pm|
We have been married for 4 yrs now. I was pregnant with our 1st child together when we got marreid. Months after we wed and around the time i was about to have the baby, my husband started acting different. Suspicious. There were so many different signs. I knew him well enough to know that something was wrong. When confronted about it he denied everything. While he was deployed I found the emails. He was having an affair. He told her he loved her and yadda yadda yadda. I also found postings that she had left on a website for spouses military personnel, where she asked the forums what naughty little things she should send to him downrange for his birthday. She also posted that she missed his smile. When he finally came clean he said he had never met her. Plus I found emails to an old girlfriend in which they had secret email addresses made up using their names and the current year. I was heart broken to say the least. All this was going on while he was deployed. I agreed that we would wait until he came home before we decided to continue on or call it quits. And in that time he gained custody of his 2 teenage daughters from a previous marriage. While he was deployed I had to care for them and in that time the girls and I developed a lovely relationship. Which complicated things further. When he finally came home from his deployment I agreed to stay and try to work things out. I got pregnant right off the bat. We were all surprised. Everyone was happy except for me. I really wanted to leave but felt I couldnt abandon the two teens who needed a mother figure and take my son away from his dad who he really needed to get to know better.