Tell me what your REALLY think!

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tell me what your REALLY think!
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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 10:32pm

Please bear with me, this is a little long.


My friend the Psychologist called me tonight, I'll refer to him as Phd.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 3:33am

Thinking

Follow the Lawyer advice ASAP without here finding out.

Work the 180 program to the letter and see how she responds to you excising power over your own life, no wishy washy from your end, your way or the highway and it will become clear soon enough if your friends 25 year old opinion is right.

And get a firm grip on that pair cause she is going to challenge you.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 8:10am
I think you have rec'd excellent advice - as difficult as it can be, you have to deal with what's real and not what you want it to be or what you thought it was.
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 9:09am

Wow Thinkingman,

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 4:31pm

Thank you all, I appreciate your support.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 02-10-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 5:04pm
My heart breaks for you...this is so sad, but you will see that happiness in a new life is ahead for you. You said the right things to your son. one thing I've learned is that you can't rescue another person- they have to want to help themselves badly enough to change. Be strong and don't lose hope in yourself.
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Registered: 01-07-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 5:52pm
I had been watching your posts for a week or 2 and didn't have the heart to say it didn't look good,
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 7:10pm

I agree, it would be great to have a shrink for a friend, this crap is just mind boggling.

 

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Registered: 03-13-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 11:14pm
I'd just like to add to the words of support others have already written. I am so sorry for the situation you are in and I think you realise that, sadly, there is nothing you can do to help your W. That must be so hard for you but you know that you can continue to give your sons all the support and love they need. As others have mentioned it is so important now to look after yourself. You are not used to putting yourself first but that is what you need to do now and I wish you all the luck in the world with the tough task of rebuilding yourself and your new life. You deserve a great future. Stay strong.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 8:48am

What a crazy day it was.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 11:39am

Not sure what to think. The important thing, it seems, is to keep Ph.D up to date on this conversation and those in the future. He'll be able to spot trends that we laymen might miss. Just be sure that you give him the unvarnished truth, too. He's only getting your side of it and it's tough to remain objective in these matters. I don't mean that in an accusatory way, at all. I'm simply remembering my own state of mind during similar trials and tribulations.


As long as you have that professional

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