Textbook case: New baby & wandering husband

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Registered: 06-07-2011
Textbook case: New baby & wandering husband
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Tue, 06-07-2011 - 3:16am

Hello, it is 3:00 am and

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 8:59am
Alisssa24 wrote:

Hello, it is 3:00 am and

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 8:59am

I would like to offer my 'opinion' of what you should do to get through this efficiently

I would advise from experience that you strengthen your resolve by possibly seeing a lawyer (as one poster has put it best knowledge is power and you want the power) have a consultation

I know you want to work it out but many of the spouses do not want to change and will drag you through this over and over until they see you really mean business and WILL leave, my advise would be to really be ready to leave and be done with him if he does not show remorse, regret, provide access to all email and phone records, passwords, credit card bills etc. and agree to counseling or whatever you feel you need from him - get ready

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 11:02pm

I am going to disagree with the other posters.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 8:11am

I just wanted to send you some big ((HUGS)), Alissa!

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Registered: 06-21-2011
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 3:51am

I had a similar situation but we had our son before we got married. We had been together about 8 months when i found out i was pregnant, I thought that he would leave then because we were very young, he had just turned 20 when our son was born and i was 22. But he said that he loved me and so we moved in together, we had been together just over 3 years when we got married and i found out a week after my honeymoon that he had been going to visit another woman that was a friend

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 1:11pm

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you at what should be a wonderful time in your life with a new baby.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 9:41pm

It reads like there was something he was communicating

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 2:37am

He never communicated on any level about anything in all the years I knew him. He never was demonstrative and would never discuss anything. He would walk off rather than address any issue.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 4:15am

A monkey on his back is doom.

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