Is texting and sexting considered infidelity?

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Is texting and sexting considered infidelity?
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 5:46pm

Hi.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 3:15pm

"Sadly, I believe that ANY time spent texting, facebooking, or talking on the phone with another woman can be called cheating. Time spent on another woman/man is time that you could and should be spending with your partner. Marriage is tough. We all reach a point of familiarity that can appear to be "boredom."

I disagree.

dragowoman

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Registered: 06-30-2011
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 10:56am
I disagree. Some of those "secrets" are indications of narcissism and psychopathy...
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Registered: 06-30-2011
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 10:52am

First, my heart goes out to

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Registered: 05-11-2011
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 4:07pm
Hi - I believe it to be infidelity while others would argue not. If emotions are involved in it then I believe it is 100% emotional cheating. If your husband can walk away from it and never look back, allow you access to everything and be open with you then maybe there is a way to get past it. Mainly from my experience, when my husband did it to me, you have to try and look into why they did it. There is no excuse for what he did, but if the relationship is worth repairing to you, then maybe you can work on things you both need together. For instance, right now you probably need security and stability as well as nuturing because you were hurt. He may need some sort of attention, that he may have felt he was lacking. I know that when I dealt with what you are dealing with (i actually currently am still trying to move past it) I knew I loved him, but I couldn't understand why he did it. I would try and talk to him, even via marriage counselor and explain that even though he feels it wasn't wrong of him to do, it was because it hurt you in a big way and you feel betrayed. If the situation was flipped around would he want this done to him? probably not. Honestly, he needs to be open with you and show you that you can trust him again, but most importantly he needs to understand that what he did was wrong and that it can't and should never be done again. It's a hard thing to go through, even though there is no physical aspect to it, it is painful and a bumpy road to recovery. he too must help you get over this. When I first found out, I wanted my husband out too, I didn't want to hear anything about it, I just shut down. Really think about yourself right now, be selfish and figure out whats best for you and what you want. After all, he was selfish when he did what he did. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose to do. Since mine was so recent you can private message me if you would like.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 3:04pm

Been there, done that learned,

dragowoman

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 7:06am

Hello,

Please remember that this is

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 6:33am

*snicker* I almost need a black light, cheetos, and some Pink Floyd in order to understand your posts. Yeah, some mystery in a marriage is good. I like the closed bathroom door policy with my fiance. But other than bathroom stuff, I think that secrets are a terrible thing.

I personally had an ex-boyfriend who hid his phone from me, made calls while I was out of earshot, etc. He was cheating. And "sexting" is cheating - it is an emotional affair.

You could try dressing up in sexy dresses and flirting with other men, but I'd advise leaving that in high school, where it belongs.

Let's try some advice from people who can A) spell and use grammar correctly and B) aren't toking it up and trying to be psuedo-philosopical.

Milford Sound in New Zealand
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 11:27pm

Those who do not head history are bound to repeat it.

Insecurity is never beautiful

A mature adult realizes that control is an illusion

So why ive in one?

There is no control!

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-02-2007
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 8:20pm

Yes, texting and especially sexting can be considered infidelity.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 6:35pm

Disrespected/

dragowoman

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