Texting spyware

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Registered: 07-14-2011
Texting spyware
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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 6:02pm
Has anyone ever used spyware to read actual texting? Just discovered my DH of 35+ yes has been texting friend of his whom I also know and then deletes from phone. Been going on for 6 weeks and I stumbled on it just now by accident. He hasn't said a word that they've been communicating. She's younger and single with a boyfriend. He had affair in the past 5 hrs ago. His behavior has been very distant for the past 4 weeks or so. In the meantime I'm just waiting and observing and lining my ducks in a row so I won't be financially devastated just in case. Been thru this before. I said I'd never resort to snooping again and here I am!!! I feel I have to so Im not blindsided. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 8:41pm

I've never used it, but I did some serious research into it. I think the best bets are either Flexispy or MobiStealth. The only thing you need to make sure of is that you DH's phone has a data plan on it as they transmit all info to an online account for you to access.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 12:12am
Men get very distant when they are interested in or having an EA or PA with another woman. You resorted to snooping because you probably had a gut feeling that he was up to no good. You are smart to get all your ducks in a row just in case you find out he is up to no good. Once you've been thru this before you get much more intuitive about their behavior. I'd google cell phone spyware and find out what is the most recommended to buy.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 1:51am

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 1:55am

Very bad idea.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 1:07pm

I found this from another post

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 1:21pm

2 things that feature works both ways and let it be a lesson to you never to sign up for any plan you do not hav2 compleate control over. I do suggest being very careful because the records are somewhere.

dragowoman

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 2:56pm
That's great, but how do you know he doesn't have a secret e mail account he's communicating with her on.
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Registered: 01-20-2011
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 9:49pm
Thats great but can't you just keep an eye on the call register via the bill or phone activity on the website? I ask because being caught spying is most cases creates more problems than it's worth...unless you're REALLY good at it and won't get busted. Just a thought.
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Registered: 05-07-2004
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 3:17pm

No, I don't have the password to login to the online bill, but I sure look at it when it comes in the mail every month to see if my H called or received a call from the OW. As for the spying causing MORE problems than it's worth, if I hadn't caught my H through spying while he and the OW were in the planning stages of just finding a time to have that first kiss, I'm pretty sure I would be getting ready for a

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 3:37pm

ROFL

dragowoman

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