It really makes a huge differences doesn't it to hear other people have been through or are going through what you did, the same kick in the gut feelings. I too found comfort here, I'm 6 weeks today from dday and I know that this board, reading others' stories and getting great advice had a big part on getting me through the first few weeks especially, over Christmas to boot.
Thanks for sharing and I'm glad to hear that you are rediscovering who you are and that you and your boys are happier! :O)
Have a great day!