Things are not adding up around here.

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Things are not adding up around here.
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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 7:56am

I have been journaling my feelings via an email to the OW that was never supposed to be sent. ON Wednesday of last week I was going to delete the email but hit SEND by mistake. Daughter distracted me.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 8:06am

I think your H is in contact with the OW - either he called her and told her the email was coming or she called him after she rec'd it, based on his immediate response indicating that he knew what happened to the email.

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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 2:25pm

I have to totally agree......sounds like he IS in contact with OW.........he said it and then got nervous because he knew he was busted!

 

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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 3:04pm

I was not prepared to let a 24 year old marriage go..then I was not prepared to let

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 5:22pm
Sounds like he made a slip of the tongue and then tried to quickly correct himself in hopes that you didn't catch on.


Edited 6/23/2009 1:40 am ET by peaceyma
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:01am
Oh, he gave you the WRONG answer there.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 7:34am

Do you really need proof? At this point you know he is in contact again and he knows you know. There is this huge stinking carcass he put under of your bed. He knows you smell, and he is hoping like heck that you will just ignore so he doesn't have to go even deeper underground. Three times before, you stuck around, he doesn't expect that you will all of a sudden do something different.

I suggest that rather than helplessly waiting around that you start planning your exit. Get your ducks in a row and then leave him. There is no reason to stay just to get proof of something you know is happening. It is time to start acting on what you know even without definitive proof. I think that even if he isn't in contact, he has given you reason enough to leave him.

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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 7:45am
I SMELL??????!!!!!! OMG LOL Thanks everyone for your help my ducks are in a row and ready to go. BUT i need proof and trust me I will get it. I am a very gifted snoop. Right now I am just saving some cash and getting ready.
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Registered: 01-07-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 8:11am
My thoughts and prayers are always with you selkiescot, I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this. Oftentimes I just don't know what to say to you.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 9:15am
You have a plan, that's good.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 10:11am
We own 2 houses one we just purchased and one that' s for sale sooo I can go to the other house or better yet let him. The old house needs so much work because he has started project after project and NOT finished them.