thinking about them during sex?!?!

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Registered: 08-27-2006
thinking about them during sex?!?!
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Mon, 05-17-2010 - 5:23pm
I found out my H was having an A when we weren't getting along.One day when H was sleeping I went into his truck found his other phone and found her texts and #.So I called
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Registered: 05-19-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 1:59am
I have no Idea what you should do except to say that I'm having the same problem and maybe we can help each other. My seven year relationship ended this past Friday when I confronted him about a late night phone call and inappropriate text messages. I confessed to the affair "a couple of months" he said it was. I'm still processing the whole situation but all I can see when I look at him or close my eyes is them together and I know what she looks like thanks to the magic of Facebook. Please let me know if anything works for you because if I can't these visions out of my head, I'm never taking him back.
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 7:05am
I'd get counseling.

 

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 5:53pm
My H and I knew each other for 33 years at the time of the A - Married for 16 - 5 yours mine and ours kids - he wanted his 'ego' and 'self esteem' built up - wanted to be stroked and appreciated, that's why so many of them choose such pathetic needy creatures that will do ANYTHING, ANYWHERE to have a man, regardless if that man goes home to his W.... I still think about it. My H had A for 7 months when I found out and changed the locks, then it continued for 3 months where they lived together one month in between him moving in w/ hor, he slept in various locations or visited hor - anyway, the 1st two months he was living w/ hor he was wondering how he could 'get out' to date other W of HIS CHOICE - since hor found him on the internet and he wouldn't have chose hor himself for a relationship - and the last month was talking to me daily all the time and working his way to come home.... I STILL think of it if not every time we have sex, then most times we have sex, I try so hard to push it out of my head, other times I just battle it, OW had enough of "MY and my Hs" sex life, I won't give hor anymore. Hor used to be thrilled and call him Marathon Man because he lasted so long - what hor didn't know was 1- he was on a prescription drug at the time that kinda deadened feelings, and 2- he just couldn't 'finish' because he wasn't thrilled with where he was and who he was with - the A was exciting because it was stolen moments etc. Once he was there w/ hor, it was a chore of sorts - It's hard work, we're 9 months into R and I still think of it, don't let hor take any more of your pleasure from you, fight it, snap a rubber band, concentrate on what you are doing - it does get better. I actually scream in my head (not out loud that would certainly kill the mood!) Get the hell out of my head, house and M)it usually works.....Good luck to you!