Tough time today

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Tough time today
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 11:13am

On a day filled with love, pain is creeping up. Why can't i just enjoy the day. The sweet cards, the hugs, flowers and kisses. I keep thinking of her.... I know he loves me, it's been over a year since the A, but I've only known the Truth, for a few months....


This is helping me today, maybe it will for you too...


I don't always get to know why

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Registered: 02-14-2010
In reply to: ok2luv
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 8:58pm

It's tough day for me too.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
In reply to: ok2luv
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 2:37pm

We are now engaged, we weren't married when this happened.


It was his ex, who was the OW in his last relationship. His and the HOR had an on again off again relationship for 6 years, if you include the cheating with me....


I had it, I said her or me many times since they were still friends....


when i caught him buying her shoes (two months into the A) I told him if I ever catch you talking to her again you will never see me again....


I had it, I was sick of it all.... but I threatened and I meant it.


I think he needed this kick in the ass because he couldn't get rid of her for 6 years even though he wanted to.... she was just there, did what he wanted, fed his ego, etc.... came over whenever to have sex....


anyway, i put my foot down, I was serious and ready to be left, because honestly I didnt care anymore. He was acting like a stranger.


You need to set the limit because he can't, he is addicted to her right now.


If you love something set it free, if it comes back he is yours forever...


This happened to me, but I can't get over somethings right now.... our relationship is great now, but I can't let my guard down and be free of this. It is so hard....


you need to take charge of your life and stop waiting for him.... life is too short....