Truth or nutcase?Emails from the OW

I'd say (even if she happens to be telling the truth) she's still a nutcase!

And I also have to say... she sent you this email... who is harrassing who here?

I tend to think that OW is dishonest and desperate in the first place. And this email seems to be pulling at threads and trying to push buttons. If I were you I'd go to my H and make the bulk of the conversation about "Why does this woman think it's appropriate to email ME?" I didn't invite her in my life and she has NO right to be sending me messages. Then maybe sneak in a little conversation about the physical contact they may or may not have had. Then he can't say, "See you were obsessing about her." Because the majority of the conversation will be about your feelings and just plain respecting you.

Unfortunately, in these situations, it's hard to believe that either of them are telling you the complete truth.

She seemed to feel pretty free to tell you that your H has been driven to the brink with your obsessing.......how would she know that?

Chances are she doesn't know anything.