Unique situation

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Registered: 01-07-2011
Unique situation
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Fri, 01-07-2011 - 8:06am

I need advice. I have a bit of a unique situation. We have three children, one bio, 4 and two nieces 12 and 17, my sisters children we adopted. My sister continues to have a great relationship with the kids we took them in when her marriage fell apart she asked me to keep them because we can give them the stability they needed, the kids have been a strain on me they have AD and ODD.

DH came home and asked for a divorce. It was a complete shock. I had just been given a scary health diagnosis and had planned while I was going through treatment I would send my nieces to stay with my sister until I recover. According to him he asked for a divorce because he thought I was abandoning these children and wanted to protect them.

I don't know how to understand this, he moved out without my niece and it devastated our bio child. He moved back into our spare bedroom and wants to do whatever it takes to make it right.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 1:28pm
His story of why he asked for a divorce makes no sense whatsoever. How would you guys getting a divorce protect your nieces? My guess is he moved out for another reason, such as another woman.
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Registered: 08-31-2009
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 9:28pm

i had to read your post several times as it made no sense to me that your husband would choose to divorce you over your choice to do what is best for you and thereby your child and family.

i raised my brothers two sons after he was sentenced to prison for life without possibility of parole. in retrospect i must admit it was extremely hard.

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Registered: 01-07-2011
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 8:13am

I don't know what else I could say. Until Christmas day I thought I had a good marriage, it was by no means perfect but I thought we were happy. Presently he has no involvement with the nieces, even though I believe he does not have an inappropriate relationship with the kids I am not going to give him an opportunity to prove me wrong.

He is seeing a psychologist and a team of counselors with the hope they can help him figure why he did what he did. They all seem to be addressing issues in his past (mommy issues, she is a piece of work).

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 2:23pm

Like everyone else, I had to question his motives.




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Registered: 11-14-2008
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 10:36am

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Registered: 01-07-2011
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 10:35am

The good news is I woke up this morning and I did not feel the painful ache. I was actually able to smile at DH and not feel like I am dying. I have been to 2 sessions with him and he denies there being another woman.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 5:21am

How about making your posts more clear and answering to the questions asked here rather than how you played the sex card ? huh?