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|Thu, 07-09-2009 - 12:55pm|
HI, I just found out last Thursday my husband was cheating on me. My suspicions had formed a while ago, but it wasn't until last Wednesday that I started checking up on him.
So my husband is a personal trainer at his own studio. Well, I noticed that there were some VERY flirtatious messages between him and one of his clients.
I confronted him about it and he, of course, because very mean and defensive. After he did this, I figured that there was definitely more to it. Even if he wasn't being physical, I knew that there something going on. He just wouldn't admit it.
The next afternoon I decided to drop by his work. He was there, and so was she. Wow, that's luck... I thought. I asked her if I could talk to her, but she just said it was between my husband and I. She got in her car and I yelled at her that it's between all of us now if she doesn't stop the flirting.
I was definitely acting out, and I wasn't proud of my behavior, but I thought she was being a child. My husband then told me off, saying I was white trash and that he wanted to divorce me.
Later that day, I decided to call the woman myself. I asked her why she was sending msgs like that and that I knew she had a crush on my husband. She replied by telling me I was blind and she was obviously sleeping with my husband.
She's married also, but apparently separated from her surgeon husband. She got nasty and told me they loved each other. When we got off the phone, I called my husband and told him that she told me everything.
The next day we talked with our friend mediating. He told me she was the only one and that he wasn't hiding anything else. He said he didn't love her. So I tried to believe what he was saying but it just didn't feel right. He kept swearing to me that it was the truth.
Well luckily I'm smarter than him and know how to find info on a Blackberry. A few days later I was looking through some sent msgs and found some from another girl he had been sleeping with.
What's worse is that we have a 7 month old son together. He started cheating on my 2 months after I gave birth to our child. It just disgusts me.
He wants me to believe that he will fix things, but I don't know if he will ever tell me the whole truth.
Also, he told me that one of his friend (who is also married with a 8 month old) is having relations with a woman. I told him that I was going to call, but he told me to stay out of it.
Well, I call his friend anyway. He basically talked bad about my husband, saying, "That's my boy, but he and I are not on the same level. Basically the things he was saying about his "character" were the same things my husband says about his. I think they are both just lying scum.
I just don't know what to do. Help...