what about sex??

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Registered: 04-14-2009
what about sex??
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 12:26pm
I insist he be tested before i will be with him again, just wondering how long before you were able to be intimate again? Its only been a week for me, sometimes i cant even look at him, let alone touch him and sometimes i want his arms around me and then i get so ticked off....just wondering how long it takes before u get past this...
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Registered: 02-10-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 2:33pm

After the 1st affair we had sex right away. We just felt this need to have the physical closeness. With my 2nd dday(relapse) it took about a month b/c I was so angry and hurt! But as he started to show real remorse and take responsibility for his actions, I started to feel better.He didn't pressure me at all.

You both need to be tested. take someone w/you-it was the worst day of my life!

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 5:43pm

My H and I had sex right away after D Day.

I also felt at times like all I wanted was my H to comfort me in

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Registered: 06-27-2008
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 11:59am
It has been 9 months now....and it is tough!! Even though my wife had an affair, she is mad that I started monitoring her and she has had a hard time getting "those feelings" back for me.....which is like a double-whammy for me. So how long does it take....I guess it depends on the person and the situation, but reading the other responses of a week or two sure doesn't help me feel any better : )