What to believe

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Registered: 02-05-2010
What to believe
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:34am

I need some advise. I found out 3 months ago that my H was messing around with someone online. He said they never actually met in person, just a lot of texts, chats, emails and phone calls. Something tells me that he isn't being honest with me.

During the whole finding out thing I was able to intercept some emails and texts within that week from her and they seemed to me to be a little more than "just online lovers". She wrote how much she missed him and blah blah blah, it makes me sick. I also found out through his internet history that they were planing to go to a hotel that next day, I found out the night before about this. I caught him talking on the phone to her.

So here I am 3 months after the fact and I go to the doc for my regular check up and get a call that my pap came back bad with hpv positive and I need to come in for another test with a biopsy cause of course my luck it's the high-risk one. My H tells me that he did not sleep with her and that he has been faithful through our 16 years of marriage but I am having a hard time dealing with all this, I just don't know if I can believe him after all the lies he has told.

Any advise would help. I feel like my entire world is crashing around me and I'm not sure I can handle any more bad news. I will know about the biopsy in a week or so.

I am just so angry and hurt and I can't tell any of my family.

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Registered: 01-29-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 11:14am

Ok I will just tell you a bit that has helped me with my experience.

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Registered: 01-11-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:35pm

I was in your shoes very recently, too.

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Registered: 02-05-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:36pm

Thanks for the kind words. I guess I will never really know for sure what happened. It just seems the more I find things the more uncertain I am. It's that feeling I get in my gut.

I just want to know for sure for my own sanity, does that sound crazy?

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Registered: 01-03-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 6:56pm

Had to chime in here because of your "crazy" comment!


I too thought I was going crazy when