What to do

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Registered: 03-03-2014
What to do
Mon, 03-03-2014 - 2:02pm

For at least 20 years now, my husband has had a porn addiction. I have confronted him about it numerous times and every time he would tell me he's gonna do better. Well...he never failed to disappoint me. We've been married almost 22 years, he was 17 and I was 18. The first time I can recall busting him was when I was pregnant with our 2nd son, he is now 19. We argue over this, his controlling nature and the issue of him going into an almost trance staring at other women right in front of me.

I hope that's somewhat of a baseline for this problem. I am finally able to support myself and have told him I'm through. Now, he's begging me to stay and that he swears he'll stop. Problem is, my heart is no longer there. He wants to try counseling but I just don't believe it's going to do any good because I have been hurt and betrayed by him for so long that I have become completely numb to him. I haven't had feelings for him for at least a couple of years now.

Is there a chance this is going to work out?