What will the New Year Bring?

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Registered: 11-10-2011
What will the New Year Bring?
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 6:56am

It's been almost 7 weeks since I found out about the OW.

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Registered: 07-13-2011
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 6:20pm
Sad, my friend. My wish for you is that 2012 turns your code name into happyinia. That's what I hope the new year will bring you.

There is no marriage with only one of you in it. In fact he checked out the moment he crossed the boundary to this other woman. Until she is gone, your efforts on rebuilding are a waste,

He is in denial. He is in the fog of his addiction. He thinks he can "patch" things with everyone else but the one person who he should be begging forgiveness? He hasn't even said he was sorry? Your anguish gets him to turn the other way?

I hope that you know that you do not deserve any of this. That not all men are like him. You are beautiful and worthy of love and respect in your life. Your children also deserve to see their mother whole and happy again. They are going thru this with you, they need to see you recover from this somehow and in some way so that when they are faced with adversity in their own adult lives they can recall how their mom got thru. Im not saying you will be better and back to normal as of today but you have to keep moving forward with or without your husband. I'm not saying he can't catch up at some point point, but he doesn't seem to be very earnest. He doesn't even know what he has done. He hasn't felt any loss.

I hope you saw that attorney for a consult. I hope you got tested for STD's. You are already in hell sad, please don't fear your future. Where there is a will there is a way. Without seeing the attorney it is hard to plan for the future financially. Go, then you will know where you and kids stand and how you will be supported. Then you can tell him what YOU are going to do. Because you can only control yourself. He can continue with whatever he has going for his damn self.

Keep moving forward. Keep moving forward. Your future awaits if you have the courage to reach for it. And you will never know what it will bring until you take the first step. He won't believe in you sad, until you believe in yourself.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 5:22pm

(((sadinia))) How are you doing?