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|Thu, 02-12-2009 - 6:20pm|
Hi, I am so glad i found this site....This is the first time I am posting here or anywhere on the web for that matter, I think I am in a mess and confused and angry with myself. What would you do in this situation? I have posted this on the Catch him cheating board too.....but am really looking for any advice you may have.
Ok, please bear with me while I give you the background to my problem, it is kind of long.
I have been married to my DH for the last 14 years, and while our marriage has its share of ups and downs, we have still pulled together all this while. We do not have any kids but I do want to adopt soon. Things have been a bit rocky from the beginning, and I have put in a lot to keep my marriage going even when others in my family and his mother told me to break it off. I do love & care for him a lot, and while our bedroom life has not been the very best, I thought he loved me too.
There have been a couple of instances in the past 3 years, where I caught him having what I would say is a cyber affair, he was texting and emailing and calling this other lady and was planning to go and see her when I found out about it. I confronted him and he was not being forthright with the answers so I called up this lady and spoke with her. I found out that he had joined a couple of social/online sites looking for a partner and had listed himself as separated/divorced! The other woman said she would not keep in touch but a year after that incident I get a call from her and she said I was a weak woman to stay with him and if she was in my place would keep tabs on all his emails etc.
But he would not give me all the passwords to his various email accounts. I recently found out that he is seeing someone locally and that he has confessed to this person that he is married but she said it does not make a difference to her and she encouraged him to think about starting an affair with her. I have just found out that they are planning to meet and take their relationship to the next level now.
I am thinking of going there and busting them….but I am not sure if I can do the as I am not sure where they are meeting. I was thinking of following my DH when he goes to see her, but am sure he will realize I am following if he sees my car. I do not know many people here as we are new to the area and do not have any family here.
I know I should leave him, but I am not a very strong, confident person…I am going out of my mind here…. When ever I confront him about his various “Good Friends” he gets defensive. He is communicating with more than one lady that I am sure of, though she is the only one with whom he is planning on taking the relationship to the next level as far as I know.
What would you do………..