when to call it quits?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2009
when to call it quits?
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 2:07pm

I recently found out my husband was inappropriately conversing and meeting with another women. Both claim nothing physical ever happened other than hugging and friendly kissing, whatever that means. The issue is, that this all began when I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in February last year. I have been married for 22 years to this man, we do not have the greatest of relationships because he is a pathological liar and has battled drug and alcohol addiction.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 2:24pm

I am sorry your going down this road. it's a tough road to travel alone.

BUT my honest feeling are that this man is TROUBLE. I read your post 2 times and I got angry at him myself.

You need to put you and your health first! He,imho,sounds like a pathological liar. He lied to you and to the OW. What is that you are asking him to do and is he comlpying? Dr. Phil says the best predicter of future behaviour is past behaviour. Not good on his count. While under such duress I would not make any permanent decisions. Let him stew a bit and see what happens. If he is a serial cheater he will offend again and thn you will have your answer. Continue with your counselling and get some help for your depression.


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 2:36pm
Gee, I'm sorry you're married to such a fool.