(((Katie))) For me personally I came to realize that I was finished when I got sick and tired of living on false hope and empty promises. For every discussion about how we'd see it through there was another lie or failure to do what he said he was going to do. It became about how I felt in the relationship as opposed to trying to
I think you have already answered that for yourself.
We all started with gut instinct or the feeling that something is not right.
From there some of us waited for proof, some went out and found proof and others just acted on their gut instinct.