Wife is begging for another chance

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wife is begging for another chance
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 11:56am

This is a long story that I will try to make as short and to the point as I can.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 1:31pm

At this point you don't owe your W anything but to make sure you are taking care of your children. Until your W has been in T for a while I absolutely advise you to not take her back. She needs to determine what is going on within her. She is on a destructive path. Affairs are destructive, trust me I know personally. Don't fall for her begging and pleading until she gets help. She is realizing that a woman with seven kids looking for a man is like hitting the lottery.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 12:32am

I stronly advise seeing a very good divorce lawyer.


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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 8:09pm
Hi Luigi, sorry for all the pain you are in. I can tell you from experience that when there is sooo much damage done, it is VERY hard to get over the betrayal. If you really feel a great connection with the new friend, I advise to go with it as you don't want regrets (BTDT). It has been three years of trying to heal from my H Traumatic betrayals and I am not even close.
If you really still love wife, there is so so much that needs to happen in order to move forward....find an excellent therapist first and foremost.
Keep in touch and take care of yourself. Hugs!
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 6:12am

I agree with xxxs; this is just the tip of the iceberg.. And you said it yourself : " I also just feel like I need to move on". Why wouldn't you? She did this not once, but twice. She had no thought for you or your children or the consequences that this would have on them. I'd get a good attorney and get custody of the kids. You're obviously the better person to raise them. Let her pay YOU child support and maintenance. You had wonderful memories but that's all they are~memories of what you thought your life was with someone you thought you knew. You know what you need to do. Move on and be happy with the new woman you've met. She's put you through enough pain. BTW I hope the 'bad thing' you did was knocking her lights out! lol

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 12:22am

If she didn't learn a lesson after the first affair it means she really wasn't sorry or remorseful. Now she is wanting you back as her fall back guy because the affair with guy #2 didn't work out. He probably dumped her and now she is crying the blues. I think she'll do it again if you get back with her. She is probably one of these women that need constant new male attention to boost her ego and feel good about herself. You should move on before she hurts you again.

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 10:21pm
Seven kids? I'd be getting paternity tests run.
My story was pretty much the same as yours except the guys mine was laying were all my age or younger. My ex isn't even sure who father "our" two children, but we know it wasn't me.
Mine was a user who only showed any interest in me if there was a financial or legal problem with the last being her losing the house which the generous judge awarded her.