Wife is pregnant to AP

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Wife is pregnant to AP
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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 2:50am

Have posted on the thread "how did you find out". Found a positive pregnancy test on Friday nite. We havent had sex for years. I havent spoken to her as yet but plan to this week. I'm not angry with her as my neglect over the years due to poor work life balance has contributed to the decline in our marriage. We recently discussed things but with no real agreed outcome - only that she stated she didnt want a divorce & that she wasnt looking for a relationship elsewhere

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 2:58pm

firstly i am so sorry that you find yourself here... i am a little confused by your post... your W is having an A?? and she is pregnant?? are you sure the pregnancy test is hers?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 3:52pm
I would see the best lawyer in the world! You are going to need it. You are setting yourself up. I would prepare for the worst. You may feel guilty about the past. This is now and will have a financial impact on the future including emotional.
Why the fully supportive line. So you love her what do you feel about yourself?
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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 4:43pm

hi ...yes wife is

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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 5:10pm

what do i feel about myself........i havent fully explored that yet. Ive searched deep & recognised the errors that i have made & am working on making myself a better person.


Every problem has a solution & in most cases we take the easiest one on offer without exploring all of the alternatives. Life is a journey with many challenges & we each approach those challenges differently. The decisions that i've made recently were some of the easiest that Ive had to make. Dealing with them that is another matter..it will require strength. Nobody is perfect & we all make mistakes sometimes with tragic consequences. There are no guarantees in life & life is too short to be filled with bitterness & hate.Our family unit will survive & prosper - in what form i dont know.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 8:22pm
I think being prepared is better than waiting and doing nothing.
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Tue, 06-15-2010 - 12:46am
Managed to get my parents to baby sit for a day so we could talk. She has organised everything & doesnt want my assistance (unknown girl friend). He is married & gone no contact - true colours showing. She has been open with me about the issues that have brought us
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 3:54pm
I disagree. This is not the time to become patient or soft or understanding. This is the time for very good family Law Lawyer and a post-nuptial agreement. I am sorry but you are about to be taken to the cleaners. I have seen this time and again. Our laws are not made for the sentimental. Unless you are in a non-Western country you are about to get a vicious awakening!
Midlife crises does not involve your income and retirement. I suggest preparing for a life with out her.
>> Says ive ruined her happiness & dosent regret a thing<<
Why are you not listening. It is a done deal. You may choose to waste time with someone who clearly has other options,other ambitions
and other priorities!!
You are the one who will be left behind bereft of a lover and wondering.
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