Women like it, when men treat them bad.

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Women like it, when men treat them bad.
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 9:00am

Women like it, when men treat them bad<<<<---- This is what my H told me! Are you kidding me. Maybe that is true, but its not me. I was always attracted to the dorky funny guy in the background. The ugly dude. Only because I love nice guys. So...maybe it is nice to feel a little jealous, but come on!!!

Is that the reason why my husband is doing what hes doing? Is that why he's treating me like crap. I'm his wife, not his girlfriend.

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 7:18pm
I would bet most women don't, but then again there are some women that like having a bad boy because they get bored fast in a relationship when their men are too nice to them. They think a bad boy keeps the relationship dramatic, and to them that's exciting.
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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 5:01pm

Personally, I think that's such an

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Sat, 08-14-2010 - 9:02am

This is part of the psychology of seduction. ( read a book about it trying to understand what the hell my spouse got herself into) I could not figure out why my spouse had affairs with these creeps. It's because they blew hot and cold at her. One particularly unattractive guy would be very forward with her then back off. When he withdrew his attention that she expected, she went looking for it. When he took from her what he wanted, she was left standing there wondering what the hell just happened.

My spouse then picked her own target. She pursued him, and then when she withdrew, he followed her.

It’s a shtty little mind game and folks, (me and the men’s spouses) really got their feelings hurt over it. Today she can’t figure out what happened and I just can’t have this conversation with her.

Is this sexist? Yes. Is this a generalization? Probabaly. But your husband is sort right in a twisted sort of way.

You do not deserve to be treated badly. Stand up for yourself!


I have 5 kids ages 16-10. Our D Day was August, 2008.


We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:42am
he is being selfish and will say anything in his defense
no matter how hurtful
its a load of crap don't buy into it and don't believe anything he says at this point
my husband actually said the devil made him do it and laughed
there is no excuse so they will grab any lame idea and throw it at you
after all they already stabbed you in the back what harm can it be to make it even more clear they love no one but themselves
my husband is doing better at the moment and he remembers ALL of the horrible things he has said
he is not too proud now