Would you see this as a betrayal?
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|Sat, 06-27-2009 - 1:15pm|
Where do i start?
Feel like i have been feeling confused for ever!!! About 2 years ago i met this girl and we got on so well that we became best of friends and while this was going on i started to see alot of similarities between her an H. At the time this sparked off alot of insecurities in me (our relationship was too constricting we never left each other which doesnt build confidence) so i picked and i picked for about 9 months and eventually things came to a head and he left. Swearing i was being paronoid.
So while my world came crashing down around me this lass was also having problems with her H (i understand my accusations didnt help but when you feel that way you cant help it) So they were on and off for a few months all the while my ex had moved out and i was devestated and this girl was consoling me.
Long story short she and her H moved away and are starting a new life now. I on the otherhand am still seperated from my H. There has always i felt something between us still and we saw loads of each other as i got stronger with the help of counselling. We had kind of started trying to get back on track but i felt something was holding him back
Now H has dropped the bombshell that they did get off with each other for a few months when we were not together and i am devestated.
Im furious with my so called friend how can she console me and be at it with my H???
H says he fell in love with her and only ended things because she went back to her H!!! When asked why did he tell me he just said he wanted to tell me before the end of the year.
How could he fall out of love so quick with me? Do you think he could have really loved me if he fell for her so quick? Did he really love her? Or did he cling to her in the wreck of our damaged relationship? Is it a betrayal if we werent together? It was less than a month after we had been together 5 years
He says he just wants to see how things go but i cant help feeling that im second best that if her H wasnt there mine would be!!!
Im so hurt and confused anyones opinions would be great thanks x