Young and single with children

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Young and single with children
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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 1:20am
Mandy C
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Registered: 08-10-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 8:58pm

Hi Bella,


Go to your local DA's office and go after him for child support.

T.J.
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Registered: 09-05-2006
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 11:06pm

what now gave you some great advice regarding support services.

additionally most cities offer a battered womens hot line who can offer resources.

i want to share with you another point. my baby brother was also into drugs and alcohol. while he was NOT an abuser and he loved his wife and children dearly - the truth is he loved the drugs and alcohol more.

one night, after doing drugs and alcohol all day he broke into my parents best friends house, while they were home. the couple was elderly and he loved them, they were like grandparents to him. yet, he still made the choice to break in in an attempt to steal gold. the man woke up, and starating chasing my brother thru the house. my brother had a gun - he shot the gun into the floor in an attempt to scare the man, but rather than scare him the bullet ricochet off of the floor and into the man. the man died.

my brother was sentenced to life in prison WITHOUT the possibility of parole. my brother deserves to be where he is.

you are looking at your boyfriend thru rose colored glasses. you can not make him into the man you want him to be. he is what he is, he has shown you who he is yet you because you THINK you love him refuse to believe who he is.

you are young, you are intelligent, you are a loving and caring mother. you have your whole life ahead of you, do not waste one more minute dreaming a dream that can only end up in a nightmare. drugs and alcohol dependecy ruin many many lives - please do not become another statistic.

you need to love yourself enough to take care of yourself. the very fact that you know that doing drugs is wrong is a reflection of the person you are.

sometimes when we think we love someone, we tend to believe that if we only love them a little bit harder, do a little bit more, change about us what they do not like then all will be well and we will live happily ever after - unfortunately that is not true. our loving someone should not be like a sentence for unhappiness. when you love someone they should give as MUCH as they take. i am thinking he is taking all he can - and giving little or nothing in return.

find your strength to build a life for you - it will take some hard work, but if you love yourself enough YOU CAN DO IT. you are fortunate that you have a mom there to help, many young girls have noone.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Tue, 08-25-2009 - 8:19am
I have applied for assistance again from welfair and they are giving me 400$ per mounth cash and a 700$ grant to get my car insurance that i need. I must go to a class to get it an the class is 5 days a week 6 hours a day but imma do it an they help u find a job wile ur their. I cant go to school at the same time they said but as long as i find a job then i wont have to go to classes anymore an can start school after. I applied for child support not that ill get anything he is outta work an on disability so he is not required to pay. I know this because he has another son with another girl. She had filed child support against him and does not receve any assistance. I am going to get custudy also. He is still calling my house an I do pick up but only to here how much of a fool he sounds like lol it kinda makes me feel better about leaving him finally. I know he loves his kids but as i told him he is not their for ither of us when we really need him and does nothing but lie and play games an im over it. He can cry all he wants to because he does it all the time thinking he will get out of the trouble he is in with me. O well haha thank you for your support I appretiate the advice
Mandy C
Mandy C