Am I being selfish?

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Am I being selfish?
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Thu, 03-04-2010 - 5:12pm

Ok, some may know my story.

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 8:07pm

It is not for me to say if your feeling are right or wrong, selfish or unselfish. What I do know is that I would like to share something with you. I hope that perhaps you can see the connection, and that perhaps it will help.


Trying to keep this short-


Another girl not raised by her biological father. Great mom, great stepfather (since 2 years--my daddy).


Anyway, been it touch with him off and on my entire life. Wanted him to be a better father and be around, now I am a grown up and appreciate the wonderful parents that raised me. Tried to include my biological father, invited him to my wedding, visit me in my new home, you name it. He never could get his sh*t right. Anyway, he recently had another child with his newest wife (he gets older, and they keep getting younger) who is not much older than me. Anyway, as usual he tried to use my sibling as a pawn to get back into my life. This time something was different, I just stopped caring. This included him, and all those who are of any relation to him. It will not always be this way (in regards to those around him), but as far as our relationship, it is over. I do not care about his new baby (nothing personal--perhaps I will meet the child under different circumstances someday or maybe not. I also

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 8:25pm

Hi Grateful,


Thanks for responding.

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 11:22am

Just know a warm body does not raise a child...love does. If you husband is a good father to his children, he will be with or without you as his wife.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 3:42pm

Of course it isn't selfish, thoughts are thoughts, we don't control what comes into our heads.