Am I just overreacting?
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|Tue, 05-12-2009 - 12:34pm|
So, DH and I are supposed to be rebuilding after his PA and EA and 1 night stand, although sometimes I don't see the point (I think I'm retarded for thinking he'll change). Anyway, last DDay was 6 months ago, and as far as I know he's been good since then. But, he hasn't been trustworthy - he lies about going out drinking and to bars with friends.
Anyway, he started a new job about a month ago, and I should've known this was coming because I know that EMTs usually are male-female teams. However, I had envisioned him working for a 911 service, 2 24-hour shifts a week, and being home the rest of the time. Instead, he's working for a service where he works 10-hour days 6 days a week - and his partner is a skinny little 19 year old. She's married, so I shouldn't have anything to worry about - shouldn't, but hey my H was married too when he cheated on me. Now, I'm only 22, so not old by any means, but I'm bigger than her, and maybe I'm just insecure or jealous or something, but I don't like him being with this girl 60 hours a week.
We talked about it when he found out she would be his partner, and I told him I understood that it's just the way EMS is, but that it needed to be a professional relationship, not one where he was friends with her outside of work or anything like that. So, he comes home from work yesterday, texting her! Not about anything inappropriate, but he's been with her for 10 hours so wtf is he doing still talking to her when he's at home??? Then I find out that he went to eat at a little mexican restaurant with her for lunch yesterday, which really shouldn't be any big deal because obviously they have to eat lunch, except that he bought an expensive lunch for himself and he hasn't taken me out to lunch hardly at all - btw I'm 9 months pregnant and all I crave is mexican food. So, that part at least is pregnancy hormones and not really him doing anything wrong.
What I really don't like, and want to know if I'm overreacting about is him talking to her outside of work, and what they do while they're at work. When they have downtime they don't just go back to the station. He was talking last night about it and said that they were going to have 4 hours of nothing to do today. So his idea of what they would do was "Oh, she likes walks in the park, so maybe we'll go do that. Or we could go to a movie. Just kidding....oh, but there would be time." WTF??????? I'm sorry, but movies and walks in the park are things you do on a date, not while you have downtime with a co-worker. Especially when you don't go to movies or walks in the park with your wife. So, I asked him "Well, since you're going to be in this area tomorrow, why don't you stop by and y'all can eat lunch with me during your downtime?" Which he says he