Annoyed before therapy appts.???

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Annoyed before therapy appts.???
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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 2:40am

And maybe after?

 

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 11:08am

"He has also apologized for me NOT being the most important person in his life all those years, too - he added he realizes HE was the most important thing all along and that he was incredibly selfish in all the things he's done to mess it up."

Myra

I'll be honest, I would be doing back flips is my spouse would say these kind of words to me. My spouse and I got into a heated argument on Sunday. On Monday she said that "We were arguing about the past again. The past isn't our present!" She's right is a big way. At some point, you have to find a way to live in the present. Some men never in their whole lives figure out what your husband just said to you. That's a big step.

Chin up Myra. Your one of my heros.

Tom

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 2:39pm
Hang in there. PROGRESS is being made. Your doing just fine and taking your time at this. You should take your time....its not a bad thing. Just hang in there.
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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:56pm
Myra,
Like Tom, I would LOVE to hear those words from my H - and his A was not E only, plus the two hookers as well - anyway - I would really LOVE to hear those words. I can fully appreciate you getting all worked up before the IC appts. I find myself doing that as well. I think because there is so much pent up and I know it won't all be taken care of in an hour... I know that I will be left lacking. I want MORE - more time w/ the MC, more improvements, MORE help, MORE love, you name it... and I too get 'antsy' before going to MC.... Hang in there though, you are getting progress, improvement, and lovely words, now if the actions match you are well on your way! and yes, as Tom said - try to stick to the present - another problem of mine - letting the past get in the way - Hs too - We have to somehow get to the present and deal w/ it, even though at the same time, figuring out what in the past made it so bad to have gotten to the point that we are all here - quite the conundrum guess but a necessary thing if we are to survive this, with them especially, but with out as well..... - Hang in there indeed....
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 8:11am

I often felt that way.

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 2:04am
I really hope I'm not anybody's hero, Tom, I'm too much of a confused mess to know what the heck I even want anymore.

 

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 2:09am
The progress I feel like I've made is I have finally let all of my feelings be known as they come up now.

 

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 2:22am

It did feel good hearing those things.

 

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 2:38am

You, me and ties, I swear, lots of peas in a pod here.

 

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 9:32am

Oh, Myra.

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 4:54pm

I feel almost guilty I'm not taking the time to respond to more posts, but I'm so overloaded with feelings since last fall I'm here needing feedback more than trying to help other people right now.

 

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