Anybody else experience this one???

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Anybody else experience this one???
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 7:21pm

Pretty much every time we plan

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 7:36am
Yes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 1:53pm
yes, i can relate, the worse part for me was before i knew about the A, my H & I were having sex & he asked to stop & for me to do something different, I knew right than & there that somebody had just done that to him. To this day im disgusted with that thought & at times i have a hard time with sex, or i get turned off when i get images of them two having sex. To add insult to injury, my H still tries to tell me that he never had sex with the OW, yeah, ok!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2006
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 2:06pm
I've experienced the same thing - for months after my husband's PA I could hardly stand for him to even touch me sexually because of the images that would go through my head. It was never that I didn't want to have sex with him...but the images were just too strong, and like you I tried counting to ten and that didn't make them go away. I don't know really what advice to give you, other than for me it's gotten better with time. It's been a year and a half, and now the thoughts only get "stuck" there every once in a while, but it took a long time to get to that point, and I'm not sure that they'll ever fully go away.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 2:29pm

I still suffer from this even at 14 months past D-Day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2004
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 3:13pm
It gets better. Wish I can tell you when it got better but I just know that it did. hugs, tea
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 8:30pm

You are surely not alone on this one. There are times I am in bed with him feeling close and good,

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 10:24pm
Same here, it seems to be "milder" than in the past, but it still happens pretty regularly!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 10:27pm
I don't THINK my DH progressed it to sex, I THINK it was all emotional.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 10:30pm
I don't believe my DH had sex with the two women in question, and the therapist doesn't, either.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 10:34pm
Does he realize this?

 

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