Anybody else just plain old moody?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Anybody else just plain old moody?
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:07pm

I can be sitting comfortably with DH watching a movie or whatever, and things can SEEM pretty much calm and okay.

 

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 4:04pm
Oh yes, or driving down the block - or having a perfectly good time out with H and something niggling in the back of your mind just comes on in waves of sadness! Yes - after a year - yes..... daily
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 5:52pm

I'm dealing with that every day... and I'm 2 1/2 years out.


Granted, my WS still can't get his emotions together for us to move forward, so I'm feeling frustration about that, currently, anyway...

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Registered: 04-02-2010
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 12:16am

Some of you may have followed my recent saga, but to sum up for those who haven't, it is only 1 month since D-Day for me and my W will not give up her A with OM, but also isn't filing for divorce.

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Tue, 04-20-2010 - 3:21pm

moods are reasonable. It takes time to get through some of this. days months years even.
some never get over it.

so if your feeling this way dont discard it like the newspaper. Listen to it, find out why. Make some changes in your life.

do something for you.

Enjoy and hang in there.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 6:00pm
Doing anything....or nothing.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 6:20pm
Ties, we are STILL peas in a pod, I feel so much like you do, just about identical.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 6:26pm
It can be worth it, only you can make that decision.

 

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 11:45pm
Yes, the back of the mind to the front of the mind, and it doesn't help that the OW in my case is still ON my case. Making horself known - circling like a shark waiting - still with the OTHER MM she's been 'doing' for 7 years (My H thought he was hor only and made him feel 'special' - he was one of a string, and one being concurrent with him -at least only one that I know of, becuase he called me 3 times to give me info - ahhhh more to THAT story too! Anyway - yes, still there, along with all the other problems..... wishing it didn't happen is something I always do, and always remember, can't undo this one...... but wouldn't it be nice. Wanting to go back to 'before' but knowing that before couldn't have been all that good or it wouldn't have gone the way it did. Wanting to think that I could have such blind trust and total love again in my life, like I used to for him, but never will again. Hoping that the books are right, and whats to come if we work hard will be better than we ever had before..... and yes, it's still there in the back of my mind - always ---- hopefully not forever....