Back and forth thoughts, anybody else?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Back and forth thoughts, anybody else?
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Sun, 07-05-2009 - 1:44am

I'm 90% sure I really want DH and myself to get through all of this and maybe even learn how to enjoy each other and actually be happy.

 

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Registered: 05-23-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 8:24am

first - hugs.


second - yes, I struggle with it all the time.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 1:12pm
I wish I had some words of wisdom but as you know I've lost that battle and my path has forked to a different path.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 8:39pm

Myradorn,

Back and forth thoughts, you bet! All the time! I think it is a very natural part (unfortunately for us!)of the process. For me, I just find it so hard to believe some days that I am dealing with this situation. Even if I am not really thinking about the A, it is always there and it always will be. Some days, that idea is very hard to deal with.

When I read your post today, it made me stop and wonder what I would be doing right now in my life if I wasn't dealing with the fallout of my H's A.

Just curious, does your H know you have these thoughts. Mine does. I think he even knows when I am in one of those "moods". I wear my heart on my sleeve. I cannot pretend to be happy and affectionate if I am not feeling it.

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 8:44pm

Faith,

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That paragraph sums up my feelings a lot of the time. I often wonder if I didn't have young children what I would do when the black clouds roll in?

Steph

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 12:49am
Oh, people disagree all the time at iV, I've seen far worse.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 12:58am

Thank you for the kind words.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 1:13am

I had a strong feeling it wasn't just me!

 

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 10:19am

I'm sorry your road is going the way it is, and hope it sounds appropriate to say hearing how many of you have decided you have no choice but to split up makes me try harder not to, we will be together 39 years on the 17th, it's hard to give that up as things stand.


I think that's entirely appropriate.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 12:59pm

Yeah, I'm still back and forth, too.

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 4:23pm

JD, I could have written your exact words. "Once Bitten" oh yeah thats me, except it was twice!!

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