Betrayed after 39 yrs of marriage...help

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Registered: 06-14-2011
Betrayed after 39 yrs of marriage...help
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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 7:30pm

My H and I have been married 39 yrs..I am 62 yrs and he is 60.

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Tue, 06-14-2011 - 8:24pm

I am sorry that your husband has abandoned you and his family for this young woman. After 39 years it is a terrible blow to have it all thrown away. But the fact is.. he left and plotting revenge on her serves no purpose and it is not putting any blame where it should be "WITH YOUR HUSBAND", as you said he is old enough to be her father.He should have used better judgment and honored his marriage vows. You can expect this type of behavior from a 25 year old but your husband is 60 years old

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 1:27am

My FIL did the exact same thing to my MIL. The younger woman (24) had 2 kids with him and eventually got tired of living with him and ran off with a guy her age and left FIL (in his late 50's) to raise the kids. And he died whilst they were still in grade school. I think she'll eventually tire of him and leave. You, your kids and grandson deserve a lot better than that. I know it's hard, but in these cases they ALWAYS pay for leaving in the end. Give it time and see. In the mean time you really should get yourself into some counseling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2011
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 1:56pm
Thanks for your encouragement...you know logic tells me that this relationship will not last. But in my mind I have visions of them living happily ever after. At this point it really should not matter. I am in a divorce care class and it is helping. Your comment about him being in a whole different place, where logic does not exsist makes a lot of sense. no one can reach him right now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2011
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 1:59pm
Everyone tells me the same thing that this relationship will not last and that what goes around comes around and I know that evenually it will. Thanks for taking the time to reply
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 2:32pm

I agree rosebud should only direct hurt and anger twoards her husband - he is the villan in all of this

he is not the man you thought he was - morph the hurt into anger

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 2:32pm

I agree rosebud should only direct hurt and anger twoards her husband - he is the villan in all of this

he is not the man you thought he was - morph the hurt into anger

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-1999
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 7:35pm

I am so sorry that you have been treated this way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 9:28pm

So sorry to hear about your story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 7:07pm

Can't respond directly, have to respond to another post instead.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 06-17-2011 - 12:02am

I forgot to add a couple of things, your story had me so angry for you that it didn't make a lot of sense.

 

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