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|Sat, 01-21-2006 - 10:37pm|
Hello friends, I have another question that I am hoping you can help me with. When I went to see my counselor she had suggested that I read the surviving an affair book. Me and my husband have been feeling so good that I dreaded going to counseling because I didn't want to be reminded of the pain. I find as I read the book that I also don't want to (but I do) because again remembering those feelings are just to painful. What I want to know is my compartmentalizing a good or bad thing?
We still have triggers and I still will have an angry day and my husband is wonderful when dealing with these. But of course I thought I got to a point where I have to put this behind us for the sake of our marriage. The trigger days don't really bother me that much it was more so the day of counseling and now that I "have" to read ANOTHER affair book. I want to put this behind me (the affair)already but NOT at the cost of doing it "un" healthy. We continue to communicate healthly but again this compartmentalizing keeps me concerned because I don't know if it is a bad or good thing. Thanks for your advice, Tea