DO I LET THIS RIDE?

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Registered: 02-16-2007
DO I LET THIS RIDE?
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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 6:24am

Hi All, I haven't posted in quite a while but I do drop in from time to time and sadly I see so many new faces here.


Brief background.

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 2:40am

I can see that same situation happening to us at some point as we only live about 8 miles away from Xskank.


My H knows of my extreme hate for OW so if we were to come face to face with her I can definitely see how he could act very uncomfortable and want to flee.


I think that you could probably "let it ride" unless your gut is telling you something. But do tell your H how this encounter made you feel. I know I would be an emotional mess for a

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 1:18am
I have to imagine he was just very uncomfortable.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-17-2009 - 9:41am

I would check in with him if only for your own peace of mind. I am "fortunate" that xOW actually works where DH and I do, and I have to see her on a regular basis, like this morning. DH has changed his routine so he never has to see her. We saw her together at a function at which our DD preformed. It sucked to have her there. We were both tense, but forgot her presence after a while and relaxed. Later, we talked about it. It was good to take DH's "temperature" where she was concerned. When he found out she was going to work here, he came to me immediately to make sure I was OK and to find out what I needed from him. He has gone out of his way and has done way more than I would have asked to make sure I am comfortable. Know how he feels about her seeing his actions means I don't worry about her presence here.

I made a decision long ago that I would not let xOW impact my life anymore. DH got that and makes sure that she doesn't have a chance to do so through him.

So, follow your gut and talk about it. It would probably do him some good to know that she has so little affect on you.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Fri, 04-17-2009 - 7:09am
This could be a good time for you to say "I couldn't help but notice that your were troubled when we saw OW and I want to check to see if you're OK."

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein