Doubting my decision...

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Registered: 02-18-2003
Doubting my decision...
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Fri, 07-15-2011 - 11:27am

D day was 3/27, when my WS told me about his year long affair with a coworker.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 2:49pm

I'm so sorry for all the pain you're going through. I know how it feels because I've been there, too. My XH's A was also with a coworker, as is the case in so many affairs, and also working out of town.

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Registered: 02-18-2003
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 3:39pm
He does say he loves me, says it was never about not loving me, but that's hard to believe. He HAS taken responsibility, and while our marriage was strained for quite a while before all of it, he has made it very clear it was his screw up and his mistake, that there was nothing I did or didn't do to cause it. But your point about being the martyr struck the nail on the head. Poor him.
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Registered: 01-16-2008
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 4:32pm

one day at a time is the answer

you owe him nothing and if you don't feel like going forward with it at any time you have reason to end it

right now you are just giving him a chance

he was seeing her for a year - that is your answer

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:22pm

Boy, does your story