UP, DOWN, UP, DOWN..JUST STOP

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Registered: 02-16-2009
UP, DOWN, UP, DOWN..JUST STOP
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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 4:15pm

I have been feeling

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Registered: 02-10-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 5:20pm
YES, YES, YES!!! I've had the same experience. I just wanted to walk out of the store and not buy him any card at all. I settled on a pretty basic one, though. On another note, he gave me a pretty pathetic Valentine's card and soon after I found out why- another affair! Relapse! I told him after (back on track ,rebuilding) that I thought it was a pathetic card and now I know why! He felt pretty bad ,but I said now I know all the warning signs for sure!
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Registered: 01-28-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 5:38pm

I'm experiencing the same problem concerning a card.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 8:53am

Well at least I'm not going crazy (or at least not alone!! lol)


Things get a little more interesting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:46am

If it were me, I would wonder why he didn't ask me about the journal.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:59am

You're right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 10:33am

How about if you were to just ask him if he is worried about you wanting to stay in the marriage and suggest he think about it and you can talk face to face when the time permits.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 1:33pm

The card thing is common. I have a drawer full of cards that I bought for my husband that once I got home and reread .... I did not like this or that line. So I would end up going back to get another or I would end up making him one that said what I wanted it to say.


My husband "secretly" looks at my diary and journal too. I really don't care if he looks. There is no earthshattering secrets in there. There is lots of emotional truths for my husband to contemplate. I too would journal

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Registered: 02-16-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 2:52pm

He claims that he never saw it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2009
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 9:12am
I wouldn't focus too much on the journal. Personally, I have my journal right out in the open and I don't really care if he sees it. Whatever I've written is not nearly as bad as what my H has done to me. I think the important thing is to keep moving forward and to try and save the marriage. look at the big picture. If he's being transparent ,going to counseling and showing you w/his actions that he cares, who cares what he reads! Don't waste energy and emotions on stuff that won't help the marriage.
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Registered: 02-16-2009
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 9:26am

You are right about the journal.

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