Feels like death

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Registered: 05-24-2009
Feels like death
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Fri, 07-24-2009 - 1:41am

Why can't i get angry?

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 2:32am

Oh gosh Budderfliey, I wish I could just come over right now and give you the biggest hug ever. You know, I have been following your story and I am really beginning to think your H has some very troubling issues that he is simply and sadly not able to work out without some IC help.


It almost seems that he feels he does not deserve to have a peaceful happy life. Just when he is on the edge of getting there, he starts this same pattern again and again. First, masking his issues with alcohol, then going to OW to let her make him feel better, which always backfires and makes things ten times worse.


I do not believe for a minute that he has any love for OW. She is just a tool for him to bring himself down into the pit time after time. She must surely see that by now, but she may enjoy feeling that he "needs" her and if he keeps needing her, he will go to her.


He needs help, you need peace. I am so so sorry, you did nothing to deserve any of this. Know that you will be ok no matter what.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 2:40am
Oh, that's rough.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2008
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 6:08am
I feel very deeply for you and hope you are okay. This situation seems similar to mine, as in, my husband is an alcoholic. He would always walk out after we were trying to rebuild things. He would get angry when I asked too many questions. Your husband seems to have "won" you back so now he can go on seeing the other woman again. I was constantly walked out on, with no explanation. I would wait up to 8 hours for my husband to come back. He left drunk and angry always. I would always be hysterical wondering who he was with where he was. He would always tell me he was at a bar by himself. I will never know what went on those nights, and there were many of them. I know the agony and anxiety you are going through. Feeling like you finally had him back, and he just turns right around to do the same thing as before. You don't deserve this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 8:06am

I've been watching some of your posts and your husband is just horrible to you. He is sick.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 9:44am
Budderfliey, I'm so sorry this keeps happening. Your H is an alcoholic and he seems determined to find bottom. The question is, are you willing to go there with him, and take your family along for the ride?

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2009
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 10:32am

As I posted last night, he pulled into the driveway.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2009
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 3:03pm

I think posting this in this folder - rebuilding -makes perfect sense.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 9:26pm
I'm just so so
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2009
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 12:36am

I cannot express my thanks enough for the support that I find here on this site.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 9:42am
Hang in there and keep thinking about what's good for yourself and your daughter.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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