H asking for ground rules. What do I say
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|Thu, 02-02-2006 - 5:58am|
I desperately need some help.
In Nov 2004 I found out my H had an A while away at a conference on business. During most of last year I was on antidepressants, counselling and thought I was recovering pretty well. I even said to him in Sept how I was so happy and had finally some out of the dark tunnel I seemed to be in.
But in Oct he again went away to a conf (he travel 50% of year)and did it again.
Going against everything I ever said I would I took him back. He says last time it was a result of flirting but this time it happened because he was depressed due to the problems of the last year and he felt a self-esteem boost as a result.
I'm really struggling this time around, but am determined to give it a go.
He has asked me for basic ground rules of what he should and shouldn't do to make me feel better. The thing is I'm so mentally muddled I don't even know where to begin, plus last thing I want to do is force him to do something he doesn't want to and then have it thrown back in face after.
keeping the faith...