He needs help but I still have ?s

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Registered: 04-02-2006
He needs help but I still have ?s
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:33am
My H and I finally went to counseling yesterterday for the first time together since dday 1 month ago. My H is clearly in a depression and should go on medication but is reluctant. The therapist asked me to wait on my questions with details of the affair because he thinks my H needs some help. So I'm waiting I guess, feeling a little bad for my H but at the same time his "mental health" doesn't justify what was done right? I'm supportive of him getting help but obviously still angry over the A. Any suggestions with mental illness and A? This is all new to me.
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Registered: 07-22-2005
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:41am

Here is a link that will help a great deal http://www.depressionfallout.com/. I got the book and read it cover to cover. My H was also Ill at the time but you are 100% right this does not make it right. They do still know right from wrong! had to change IC / MC due to the fact once the first one met with My H the focus was on him and his health only.. That was not good. So please go see someone for you and at times you do need to wait for the depression to lift before you can do anything with MC. There is also a great support group called NAMI.. That maybe able to help you as well.. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Please try and take care or yourself the best you can. I know it is hard when you do care about your spouse and want to see them past the hard times..


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Registered: 08-03-2004
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 12:23pm

You might check out the info about withdrawl from infidelity at www.marriagebuilders.com


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