Healing Chat on Date Night

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Healing Chat on Date Night
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Tue, 04-28-2009 - 9:00am

We are four years out. The rollercoaster ride of emotions have been something. I would go through periods of overwhelming bliss and then through waves of emotional

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 11:44pm

Thank you 5D for your

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 12:52pm

Jellybean, I do not know your

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 12:32pm

Thank you for the positive thoughts georgiannasx.


LOL Those women were a colorful lot. They are all history now! The last one to go was Olive Oyl. YEAH!!!!


My husband is more considerate, protective and caring now. He understands what triggers me and is thoughtful.

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 11:59am

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 11:37am

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 8:25am
Wow, when I reread my post to you today I thought
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 8:30am

#1. You sound stronger and happier with your husband. The relationship sounds a little stronger. I noticed this about your post.


#2. The things he tells you to focus on, those are things my husband would say. He seems focused on the here and now. I think that is good. It's different, it's male, but that's what we like about men, that they are male, different, don't think like us. Right?

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 2:52am

You know, that all sounds really positive.

 

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Tue, 04-28-2009 - 9:23pm

I am so happy to read that you and H are in such a good place now. We are only a little over one year into rebuilding and I still need to talk to him about some of my feelings but do not know how to bring it up. I still feel he carries a torch for OW and wish he would be able to see her for what she really was. I have asked him if he regrets never being able to have a open relationship with her and he says no, he just used her. But then I wonder how it could have gone on for 3 years if she really meant nothing? I also wonder why it took so long to go no contact after promising this even during counseling. Any ideas?


5 D you have helped so many of us with your gentle and kind wisdom and advice and I thank you for still being with those of us who are far away from being healed.


Bless you

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Tue, 04-28-2009 - 9:28am

Wow....good for you!