How can you have sex again with him (or her) and having pleasure in it??
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|Sun, 07-29-2012 - 3:22pm|
it is 2 years now since DDay and a lot has changed. I've posted earlier on my situation so to cut a long story short: we have become friends again, we are trying to make the best of it and to further improve our relationship, even though he knows that my romatic love for him has died during these two years and it will probably not come back. We have decided to stay together and it has been the right decision so far.
I even try having sex again with him. But here the problems start. Even though I am not sad anymore about the affair and even though I want to have sex I just cannot let myself go and enjoy it. I have to concentrate so much on feeling something phsyically that is it more than hard to sleep with him. Since DDay I have become much more selfish I guess, much more self confident (I have a lot of problems regarding this but I'm working hard on it) and so I am much more direct in telling him what I want and what I don't want. I want to have sex and there are times when I really need it, but with my husband in bed any lust seems to vanish. Today it started promisingly but then he made a false move, so to say, held me back at my shoulders (probably to keep me in a position that was agreeable for him) and it made me so angry I slapped his arms away. I never like it whenever he did this but it was never such a problem. Today it was. He was irritated of course, and a bit angry as well, and I just stood up and left the room. I it so easy for him to get it all and I have to fight for each tiny feeling of pleasure, it is just not fair.
I don't know how and if i can have pleasure again while sleeping with him. There are women here who do have sex with their husband even though the relationship isn't fixed in a perfect way, to put it this way: have you any advice for me?