How do I find proof...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
How do I find proof...
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Wed, 01-05-2011 - 10:37am

So my Gut tells me that the H is still cheating.. i have zero proof other than his actions are similar to before. He is either hiding his blackberry or is just never letting it of his person. He jumps when it flashes that he has a new message and will move it away from me if I happen to be close to it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 12:42pm
Articles about infidelity say being overprotective of the cell phone is a real BIG sign of cheating. If he's hiding his BB and jumping every time it rings, chances are that he is still hiding something. Combine that with him wanting no physical contact with you and it doesn't sound good. You should be concerned. Is there any way you could look at his phone whilst he's sleeping. Do you have access to his e mail accounts?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 3:45pm

no it's almsot like his phone doesn't exist at night i have torn our house apart looking for it at times.. I no longer know his passwords for his email.. - i've thought about that keylogger but the only pc he has right now is his laptop for work and well as he works home land defance i don't feel much like going to jail :-). i guess i will jsut need to wait as if there is something going on time will show.he can't be on alert 24/7

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 4:46pm
So you don't know where he keeps his phone when he's sleeping? You know he has one cause you've seen it. Most people keep there cell phone on their nite stand at nite. The fact that he's HIDING it and never just casually leaves it laying around is indeed very suspicious. Is it a work issued phone ?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2007
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 2:01am
If I were in your situation, I would look in his vehicle. Under the front seat or in the (locked) trunk would be "safe" if he thought he needed to keep it where you wouldn't look.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 12:55pm
Now that I think about it, why wouldn't he give you the no. to his cell phone? I mean he knows you've seen it and has it. Are you thinking this is a second cell phone he has on the side like a pay as you go phone? I agree that if he does have a secret phone he doesn't want you to know about that he probably keeps it locked up in his car somewhere at nite.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2009
Wed, 01-12-2011 - 4:58am

Proof..ok so here are a few things you can do. First THINK and pay attention. Wait till he gets careless and get that blackberry. Check texts and pics not just #'s. Have him followed or follow him yourself be careful. Check his internet activity/email hack it. Drop in unexpectedly. To hell with privacy if you have that feeling guess what? You have to look out for yourself because friends/co-workers/family members won't tell you if they know.

Allow me to share my story. We have four children almost ready to fly the coup now. Married 28 years this year. October 8th 2009 was the day I found out. After 26 years! Yes that's how long it took me. Mom always said never accuse cause he will do it then..rewind to when I started getting the "sick" feeling in my gut. I was caring for my four little ones we had back to back..on my own mostly because he was always "working"

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2009
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:18am

Check to see if he hides his phone in the car.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Sun, 05-01-2011 - 12:23am
Nobody puts one foot in front of the other without a reason. If he's hiding that phone like he is, there IS a reason. I'm sorry, you have good reason to be suspicious and it does not sound good. I think it's better to know, I think you already do. If he USES that phone at home, it IS in the house, right? You're saying really negative things here and that little voice in your head is hollering at you. His behavior is just not right.