how do i get through this? sorry its long

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Registered: 03-25-2012
how do i get through this? sorry its long
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Sun, 03-25-2012 - 10:27pm
I have been with my husband for 8 yrs. I am also 8 yrs younger than he is so I've been with him since I was 17. It has been a roller coaster I feel mentally and physically drained we have two children together. But here the past few years I have found him talking to other females he denies ever cheating on me but I feel that he has. We had an arguement lastnight about the past and things that he has done to me in the past. I really feel at this point we need to split up or something he doesn't want me to leave I am so confused should I try therapy before I make such a big decsion. He started doing this when he got the job that he is at now it seems like it is never ending I try to forget but the past ujust comes and smacks me in the face again I am hurting but it seems like he doesn't want to deal with it he keeps trying to make me feel better but I keep asking myself is this the end or what . He chats with online porn girls so idk what that is about he getsto wherfe he is very sexual then he isn't I don't know if my depression is in the way or not. I need advice someone to talk to help me cope with things that I feel. Why does he want to talk with females?
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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 5:24pm

mama,

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Registered: 03-25-2012
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 4:45pm
Hello ollie,
Thank u for the advice. Well my h has been caught talking texting with other women he is more than willing to go to conseling. He knows that it is hurtful when he visits those sites but everyone tells me that it is normal. He says that its just porn and he enjoys looking at it butt would never cheat on me. Which the other women have never admited to it either. I want a happy life I feel that things that has happened in the past has built this wall he is trying to knock down and he tells me that all the time he said I need to forget about it. I suffer from anxiety and depression which I suffered from before we got together. I have talked with him about splitting up he doesn't take too well with that he doesn't want to be apart from he he said he wouldn't know what to do if I left. He has some empathy from what I can tell he is not a very open person about his feelings except if we get into an arguement.
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 7:19am

Hi mama,